The missing ingredient of self care (hint: it’s not permission)

The thing blocking us from self care

We voraciously read articles on self care ideas and activities.  We pin self care tips, and share quotes to inspire ourselves.  But what is it that stands between us and the elusive self care that we all seem to be chasing with limited success?

It’s our need for permission.

You are waiting

I know that you’re waiting for permission right now.  Maybe it’s permission to follow a path that draws you.  It might be permission to leave a bad situation.  Permission to say yes to something that thrills you - or say no to something that drains you.  Or permission to just stop for a day, an hour, even five minutes.  In other words, you’re waiting for permission to do the things necessary to take care of yourself.

The problem is this:

No one is EVER going to give you the only permission that really counts - yours.

As women we aren’t taught to be our own authorities.  We aren’t raised to be sovereign beings.  We are groomed from birth to caretake others, but not ourselves.  It’s time to fuck that shit right off.  YOU are the authority on you.  You are the only one who can decide what you actually need, and when.

The antidote is within you

So how do we dismantle our need for permission?

We assert our sovereignty.  When we embrace our sovereignty we make our own decisions.  Permission requires the approval of others, but sovereignty sets our own approval as the deciding factor.   We take action to give ourselves what we need instead of waiting for someone else to acknowledge that we need it and then grant our access to it.

Stop seeking permission for self care. 

Step into your sovereignty and get what you need.